This Has To Stop

This post isn't going to be pleasant for many people, in fact, it's probably going to cause some butt hurt, but I really don't give a damn. Strap in, people, because this is going to get bumpy.
People have made posts about racism before, in fact, nothing has been more widely discussed. However, typically it's racism against particular groups - namely white people or African Americans (or is black PC now? I don't know; you tell me. I don't normally give a damn about PCness [that almost sounds like penis] but for once, I'm actually curious.) - and while this will touch on that a bit, this is about something else entirely, and will expand from there.


A family friend has a... We'll go with "cultural" name. At her workplace, she has faced sneers and derision, asking where she's from, where she was born, 'that's not an American name!' Etc. This woman was not only born in America, both of her parents are American as well. Her name is of Palestinian/Jordanian origin, which most people just throw under the "Arab" umbrella, but she was born and raised right here in the US of A. Since the shootings in Orlando, hell, since 9/11, the amount of racism and derision she has faced has been disgusting. Yes, she is Muslim, though she doesn't fully practice the religion beyond observing some of its laws such as not eating pork, etc. She doesn't wear a hijab, she to my knowledge doesn't pray five times a day, and there is nothing beyond her name and perhaps to an educated eye her skin tone and appearance that would make one even remotely assume she was of Middle-Eastern descent.


Her response to our shock at what she has faced is little more than "I'm used to it" in attitude. She shouldn't be. Just because someone is Middle-Eastern in heritage or name does not make them a terrorist, it does not mean they weren't born right here in America, it does not mean they aren't American, and it doesn't mean they're a Muslim - but even if they are a Muslim, that also does not mean they're a terrorist, either.


 Muslims outnumber any other people of religion on this planet. In truth, if they wanted everyone dead, we would be. Every religion has its radicals, every religion has its whack jobs. That does not mean that the majority agrees with their views. That does not mean that the minority reflects upon the majority. I will forever stand with the Muslims who follow the peaceful teachings of their religion, just as I stand with the Christians who follow the teachings of love and peace of Christ, though Christians slaughtered Muslims in scores during the Crusades. No religion has its hands clean. Every religion has spilled blood. Every religion has radicals, even today. Stop letting the media turn you against literally a billion plus people for the actions of less than .0001% of them.


Yes, I am aware there are passages of the Quran that preach against infidels and preach war and the like. But the very same can be found in the Old Testament of the Bible. For Christians out there, are you aware that Jesus is considered a prophet in Islam? And that Muslims are, by law of their religion, to obey the teachings of their prophets? Are you also aware that Allah is simply the Arabic word for "God" and Jews, Christians and Muslims all worship the same God? Ignorance is what is fueling the hate and religious war that is going on right now, and the more the western world screams about their hatred of Islam, the easier you're making it on terrorist cells to go "Look at how they hate our religion! Look at how they hate us!" You're actually adding fuel to their fire, to their propaganda, making it easier for them to corrupt and recruit young minds to their cause. But you can't see that because you are so horribly blinded not only by what the media and politicians are throwing out but by your own prejudice.


People, this has to stop! It has to! Hate has to stop. I know that sounds naïve and like a pipe dream, to think that hate can end. But it can. It really can. All you have to do... Is stop doing it. Stop judging people based on the color of their skin, or their hair, or their eyes, or their bone structure. Stop judging people based upon their religion. Stop judging people based upon their political affiliation. Stop getting so worked up by the media and what it tells you to like or dislike, who or what to hate. What is or isn't wrong. You know in your heart, no, in your SOUL, what is or isn't wrong. Love your fellow human, no matter the color of their skin or their religion or their political party. Love them even if you think they're fucking morons! Love them even if they piss you off! Don't get angry back, don't respond to hate with hate. Respond to hate with love, with compassion, with kindness.
Hate is a sickness, it's a disease that's running rampant in our world because it's such a very easy thing to do. It's so very easy to hate people. It's so very easy to look at someone and hate them for who they are or what they're doing or what they're saying. The hardest thing is to love them even though everything they believe, or stand for, goes against everything YOU believe or stand for. But my God if we could do that... If every person could do that.. Could love, could forgive, could just let others lead their lives and be who they are without judgment, without condemnation, without vitriol and hatred, there would be world peace. Legitimate, lasting world peace. There would be no reason for war, because people would refuse to kill those they love.


Eliminating racism is the first step. Don't look at someone's name or skin tone and see they're Middle-Eastern and automatically assume they're a terrorist or not American, even if they don't speak English fluently - some people are born here in America but speak English as a second language because they spoke their mother tongue in their home growing up. Don't look at an African American and assume they're going to mug you or shoot you, or break into your home or what have you, or that they're living off of welfare because they're too lazy to get a job. Don't look at a white person and assume they're privileged, that they have it easy, that they have a good job and a good life and everything just slides over to them on a silver platter. Don't look at an Asian and assume they can't speak English or that they work in a nail salon, or that they automatically speak/read/write whatever language their ancestors did. Don't look at a Hispanic person and assume they do yard work, or work at Home Depot, or that they're an illegal immigrant.


I could go on but you get the idea. Stop assuming based off of heritage, off of race. Look deeper than that. Get to know the person. Know them for who they are, not where they or their parents came from. And if they DID immigrate and are legal citizens? Congratulate them! If they're illegal? See if you can do anything to help. It costs something like $30,000 to become a legal citizen in the United States. Most people who come here are trying to provide a better life for their children, or are fleeing terrorism or oppression, and many of them can only bring what they can carry and have very limited funds. Many of the illegal citizens WANT to be legal. (Don't give me some BS anecdotal evidence; statistics outweigh your anecdotes.) Hell, they have to pay taxes anyway, regardless of the lies you've been told about that. (Seriously, do legit research. They do.)


The Statue of Liberty says "Bring us your tired, your hungry, your poor, your huddled masses yearning to breathe free." Yet American citizens seem to be screaming "CLOSE THE DAMN DOORS!" And that is so sad, and so completely un-American. We're a melting pot, we have always been a melting pot. We need to help each other, and hold each other up, not beat each other down. So what if the guy/gal beside you isn't a legal American? (Also, stop assuming it's only Hispanics that are illegal citizens; there are a lot of people of other "races", even white people[e.g. Scandinavian, German, etc], that are illegals) That doesn't mean they're any less deserving of your help, or mine.


In fact, if you're so concerned about their legal status, help them achieve it. Put yourself in their shoes for five minutes. Think about what may have drove them to come here illegally, only to find out the overwhelming amount of money they need to become legal citizens. How heartbreaking would that be, to come for a better life, to reach for the American Dream, only to find out it's just as far out of your reach in the country as it was outside of it?


Do you see my point here? We need to help each other; we need to stop worrying so much about what country someone is from, or whether they're "legal" and start worrying so much more about one simple thing. "Caucasian" isn't a race. "Hispanic" isn't a race. "Asian" isn't a race. "Arab" isn't a race. These are simply heritages. We are all one race - HUMAN. We need to focus on that, we need to help each other, we need to love each other, to protect each other, to care for each other, to tear down all of these stupid ass words we use to define each other by that we then use to discriminate whether it's sex, sexual orientation, gender - these are important for one's identity, yes, but in the grand scheme of things, the one main focus needs to be on the pure and simple fact we are all purely human. We need to respect that. Fuck everything else.


We. Are. Human.


Love each other.


Respect each other.


Help each other.


Care for each other.


Have some compassion, some empathy, for the suffering and the struggles of your fellow human regardless of where they live, or what they look like, or what they believe or think.


Listen not with your ears, not with your mind, but with your heart, and with your soul. Let them lead you, and the world will truly be a better place; and isn't that, really, the goal in life? To leave this world in a better place than which we entered it? I've always felt that it was... And unfortunately, in my nearly 30 years... It's only gotten worse. I do what I can for my small part of the world, and to reach out with the Internet to help those that I can when and where and how I can. I only hope that in some way... This causes a ripple in the pond that will become a wave. We must be the change we wish to see... And it starts with one person.

You.

"I Want Equality, But Not Like This!"

So as many of you are aware, the US Senate recently passed a bill called the National Defense Authorization Act - or NDAA - that will, if reconciled with a House bill, require women turning 18 on or before January 1st of 2018 to register to be drafted in the event of a draft, just as men have done since the Selective Service act was put into place in 1917. It has caused one hell of an uproar. I see tweets and tumblr posts all over the place of women proclaiming, "I want equality/equal rights, but not like this!"

Well, honey, let me lay this out really simply for you.



If you don't want to be treated exactly like men, you don't want equality, you want privilege.

This bill has brought the true guise of feminism to the forefront once and for all. Women are screaming about how their daughters shouldn't be forced to do this, while their sons and fathers have been buying their rights to vote with a blank check to the government payable up to and including their life should said government decide to cash it since 1917. You can't pick and choose what you get when it comes to equality. You can't. If it isn't cool for your daughters, it isn't cool for your sons, either. If you want to throw a fit, then don't throw a fit over the NDAA bill, throw a fit over the Selective Service act as a whole, otherwise all you're saying is, "We want privilege, not equality. You can have all of the drawbacks, treat me like a pampered princess because I have a uterus."

This should not be something you are angry over. In fact, this is something that, if feminism was truly FOR equality, should be regarded as a monumental and historic victory. FINALLY, for the first time since 1917, women are regarded as equals to men in the respect of the draft. No longer are our men alone in having to sign off on saying "ship me off to war, Uncle Sam!" So they're allowed to vote. No, finally, there is equality. This is a victory for equality. But there is no celebration. There's outrage.

For once, I can say thank you to our Senate for revealing the overwhelming hypocrisy that is feminism. You don't want to be equal. You don't want to be treated equally to men. You want to be treated like women, with all of the privilege of men, yet all of the kid gloves that society has always demanded women be treated with. Doors opened for you, chairs pulled out, no need to be shipped out for war in a draft, let the menfolk go and die for you while you sit safe and sound getting your hair done and your manicures bitching about man spreading and the mythical wage gap. Rarely do I say this in sincerity to any individual, rarely am I so incensed that I truly mean these words out of disgust and outrage... But now, I do. Fuck. You. You are a bunch of lying hypocrites who want nothing more than preferential treatment.

This is why I am a woman against feminism. This is why I am an egalitarian. This is why I will forever fight for TRUE EQUALITY. True equality isn't about getting preferential treatment because I have tits and a uterus, true equality isn't sitting around bitching and whining and making shit up to complain about via biased statistics that I don't even fucking bother to fact check because God forbid I become disillusioned with the dogma I've been brainwashed with. True equality is just that - everyone, everyone, everyone, everyone, EVERYFUCKINGONE, being treated the same. And I do. I treat everyone the same. I don't care if someone is being shitty to me, I don't care if it's a man or woman, a child or an adult, a disabled individual or an able-bodied individual. I treat everyone the same way; with kindness, with a smile, with good cheer and friendliness and compassion. Because goddammit, THAT'S WHAT THE WORLD NEEDS.

I'm so fucking tired of two-faced assholes in this world saying they want one thing but when they get it they cry because it's not what they wanted after all because they didn't realize that there's ACTUALLY drawbacks to it! So much for all of that male privilege right?

You should go check out Arlington Cemetery sometime. Or Gettysburg. Antietam. There are so many places, historical sites, where men have shed blood on our own soil for the very rights you have to whine and bitch and moan about all of that male privilege they supposedly have. MEN died for that. Yes, there were female casualties too, typically nurses and civilians, but the overwhelming, breathtaking majority of people who have fought, bled, cried, sweat, and died for your rights, your privileges, your freedoms in this country have been men. They've been Navy, Air Force, National Guard, Marines (Semper Fi!), Army, and even the Coast Guard in some cases. And in some cases even their children have suffered for their service from radiation exposure in Japan during World War II and Agent Orange (amongst other colors) exposure in Vietnam and on the ships and planes that carried the chemicals. That shit altered their DNA and subsequently that of their children, leading to health and mental disorders; not to mention the PTSD of the combat veterans that went untreated for so long due to lack of knowledge of the disorder to properly treat it.

We all have so many men - and yes, I'm aware there were women too, and I'm not taking away from their contributions nor denying their service, however that isn't my point here - to thank for what we have. For everything we have. Yet all you ungrateful humans do with your freedoms is spit on men, an entire gender, simply because they're men. Simply because you perceive things that you feel are unequal and rather than working either better yourself or stand up for yourself to stop it from happening to you - or for fuck's sake just getting over yourself - you decide to tear apart an entire gender who has a menagerie of injustices of its own to deal with and overcome that you're completely, WILLFULLY, blind to.

I'm so sick of it, I really am. It's time to grow up, wake up, and start actually acting like a human rather than defining yourself and everyone else by what's between their legs; and most importantly, it's time to stop expecting the world to change just for you because something makes you uncomfortable. Everyone has things that makes them uncomfortable. Guess what? PEOPLE GET OVER IT. It's a part of life.

Step outside of your comfort zone of feminist propaganda and dogma and start researching and reading from unbiased sources. Start talking to people who AREN'T feminists, hear what they have to say with an open mind, be willing to listen and to learn, hear them out. You may just be surprised at what they have to say. Moreover, you may just be surprised at how much you didn't know.

Where Has the Respect Gone?

As I browse social media, news sites, "news" sites, entertainment sites, etc. One thing has made itself perfectly clear to me. There is one primary thing broken with our society as a whole that transcends cultural boundaries, language barriers, and country borders. The funny thing is (and I mean that not as haha funny but more as odd funny) it's something that could so easily be fixed, if we, as a collective whole, decided we wanted to.

Respect. It's disappearing, fast. What little is left is being torn to shreds, being replaced by a culture of entitlement and infantile whining over things that simply are a part of life. People no longer respect each other simply on principle.

Used to be, even a random stranger walking down the street had your respect unless they did or said something to lose it. Now it's "if they want my respect they have to earn it."
No. Respect should, at least in some small part, be given to everyone, period, unless they lose it. Trust has to be earned, respect should be given without question.

If we all simply gave each other that common respect that people once had for each other, long before social media and the internet, before even the television and telephone, perhaps this world wouldn't be such a terrible place and in such a mess, especially now that rights movements have entitled people to rights that they didn't have back in those times due to their class or color (and ironically even though they hadn't the rights, in many - yes, I know, not all, but many - cases, they had respect from good people.)

Now, people refuse to respect each other because of the color of their skin, or the country they live in, because of their religion, or their sex. They refuse to respect each other because of their sexuality, or their gender identity, or their political party. The lack of respect is overwhelming.

If people could, just for one hour, worldwide, put aside their hate, their prejudices, and talk to one another with respect and the intention to learn and to understand, and with love and peace surrounding their intentions, it's my belief more progress would be made in that one hour toward securing world peace and ending wars and civil unrest than has been made in decades.

It's perfectly alright to have your own beliefs, to have your own opinions, ideals, and morals. But it is not alright to hate, badger, attack and disrespect others simply because theirs aren't the same as yours. It is our differences that make us so beautiful and unique as a species, as a global culture, and it is our sameness upon which progress toward peace can be made.

Please, set out to listen to one another, to someone who believes differently than you, with the intention not of changing them or changing their mind, but simply of learning about them, and understanding them. You may just learn something about yourself in the process.

For my Christian brothers and sisters, remember the words of Christ,
"A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another."